I’ve seen a few people do lists like these so I’m gonna try and set some too :)
- Eat breakfast every day.
I’m getting pretty good at this, I even enjoy breakfast now. As backwards as it sounds, I feel really bloated and sluggish without it now.
- As far as possible have my main meal at lunchtime, and soup/crackers or something small for dinner.
Partly for weightloss reasons, and partly because I quite like feeling hungry in bed. It makes me feel better about my day’s achievements. Also I’ve noticed that the bigger my dinner, the more likely I am to binge cos I think “screw it, I’ve already ate loads”.
- Lose 8 lbs and be back to 9 st.
- Only weigh on Wednesdays.
Once I got back to uni and started using my dodgy scales that ALWAYS tell you at least 3 lbs more than any other scales, I slipped up way more cos I just thought oh sod this, I’m not even losing weight. So on my WIW posts I’ll deduct 1 lb from whatever the shit scale says.
- Walk to uni at least once a week.
It is SO cold. I just need to man up and do the 40 minute there and 40 minute back walk once a week.
- Only 2 nights out in February, and no alcohol on any other occasions.
- Save as much money as humanly possible.
Sound good? I’m not setting any exercise ones, I’ll just do what I can. I can’t afford the gym and I hate working out at home, so on top of all my assignments, essays and exams I don’t wanna stress myself out with HAVING to work out.
I’ve done so so bad. I was basically drunk between thursday afternoon and sunday afternoon, after meeting my ex for a coffee it sent me into a tailspin cos I realised how bloody much I’m in love with that boy. But he doesn’t want me back. So I DRANK. I mean bottles of wine in one sitting, triple vodka red bulls when I was out, jagerbombs, alcopops, cocktails, beer, shots of tequila. Ergh. Felt like HELL yesterday. I have no idea what I’ve eaten either.
Theeennn I bumped into said ex on saturday night in one of the main clubs in Newcastle, and ended up sleeping with him drunkenly. I’m in such a head fuck. He did keep telling me how I was so gorgeous etc, like repeatedly.
I’m back on track today. A few days of eating relatively little for damage control (bran flakes, fruit, veggies, soup, crackers) then back to eating healthy and NOT DRINKING. I spent £150 last week oooouch.
OMG FML. Anyone got any advice on how to get an ex back who dumped you after you had depression for 3 months?
To be honest, I still don't really know why we broke up. He gave me so many reasons and some really contradict each other. He told me when we first got together he wasn't looking for something serious [though he stopped dating some chick so he could be in a relationship and chose me] - he had planned to break up with me a few months ago, but realized he was in love with me and it was too heartbreaking to imagine his life without me.
He also said that if we stayed together or got back together he'd have to marry me, but he can't marry me 'cause he's not ready [I never once mentioned marriage]. He says he feels financially pressured and obligated because we're in a long distance relationship and he's not in a good financial situation [he's a student, not working, but I never once pressured him to pay when I visited and told him time again that I would pay].
He said if we lived closer he wouldn't worry about the future as much and that it was better to break up now rather than later when it would hurt more.
He told me a couple months ago that he planned to move to where I live in the next 2-3 years, so it's rather confusing to hear that and give me plenty of hope, and then be told now that he can't be serious with me for all these other reasons.
It's all really confusing and I just feel like I'll never get closure and never get over it.
Wow, okay sounds like this boy is as confused as you are! How old are you both if you don’t mind me asking?
My boyfriend (now ex) has done this to me before, broke up with me for a million different ‘reasons’, one of them being that I was maybe moving 3 hours away. It turnedout to be just a phase and he came back to me in a few months. He was 21 and I think a lot of guys at that age freak out at relationships and want to be single, but soon realise its a case of grass-is-always greener. I really honestly think he’s as confused as you and just needs some space, since he hasn’t given you a substantial reason and is trying to nit-pick at things to justify his decision.
The fact that he said he was that in love with you means he probably still is, he’s just got commitment issues. Do you want him back? I know everyone around you is telling you to move on and that he’s not worth it but that’s such stupid advice because of course he’s worth it to you, you love him. My genuine advice would be if you want him back, fight for him. Don’t play games, like trying to make him jealous or acting like you don’t care. If he texts you be perfectly nice and civil and just your lovely normal self, try and stay in contact if poss. In the meantime, spend your time making yourself a better personal. Resolve any situations with friends/family that are getting you down, exercise, get lots of sleep, eat healthy, minimise drinking, take up new hobbies (if you’re arty, get sketching, or you could learn a new language or a new instrument), just revamp your life EXCLUDING MEN. That way, you may be able to make him jealous/regret his decision without sinking to the level of getting with other boys in front of him, which makes you seem cold and insensitive. You may even find that your new life without him is actually better. Once you’ve made yourself even more awesome, maybe in a month or so, suggest meeting up for a drink or two :)
I know the first few weeks are the hardest, and I got through them by spending loads of time with friends and never being alone. I also love boxsets and getting really lost in the characters and storylines so I forget my own troubles. I also completely changed my room around and bought new bedspreads etc to make me feel fresher, spring clean your wardrobe etc. All the little things are the ones that seem to help.
I know how you feel on the closure front, but it’s something that you can’t get straight away. Like I said, spend a month or two making yourself awesome and interesting, then meet up with him and discuss all the issues and how you could get round them. He will probably miss you lots by then anyway ;) as you seem lovely! He will have also had his space and freedom and had a chance to take a step back and reflect on things.
I don’t know if any of this will help, I just kinda ranted! If you want someone to talk to message me ANY TIME! I repeat, ANY time, okay babe?
Hey! I just saw your comment on my post about my breakup. What happened with you two, if you don't mind sharing, and how are you dealing with it? I just feel so lost.
Hey sweets. Well basically we were together for 2 and a half years, everything was amazing, due to move in together, been on holiday loads like to europe etc. Then I got depression and he couldn’t handle it, said he just didn’t feel the same anymore and he left me.
I’d love to tell you how to cope but I don’t know, because that was 5 months ago. My advice is don’t keep sleeping with him like I am haha!! It’s killing me, I just want him back. What happened with you guys? Maybe I can help if I know the deets?